Happy Thanksgiving! And ditch the labels now…if possible, before the turkey…
Why do we care so much about the labels we wear? Some are given, some are anointed, some come and go, and some stay with us forever. Some of us like the labels; others don’t. Or we pick and choose which ones we prefer and which we can do without.
Personally, I don’t care for labels at all. But labels can make things easier when we’re making a recipe, building a tree house or putting something together from IKEA. When things have labels, we give them a name. A screw, a screwdriver, cups, flour, butter, etc.
But we really don’t feel so good when someone calls us anything but our given name. Would you agree?
When we’re called anything in addition to – or instead of – our name, it’s a label. It’s a judgement. It’s a projection onto us. Whether it’s good or bad; nice or naughty. And in my back-of-the-envelope analysis of my clients, something like 80 percent of those labels don’t feel good or right.
So why do we use them at all? There are lots of reasons, I guess. But the simplest reason is because, just like the recipe or instruction manual, labels are a shorthand we use among ourselves to describe someone or something to others.
But is that helpful or hurtful? Especially when we all know that it’s the hurts that last the longest.
We use labels for all sorts of descriptions about appearance (pretty, ugly, thin, fat); political affiliations; nationality and race; physical ability, level of education. But does that tell the whole story? In most cases, probably not. It’s never the whole story. It’s just quicker and easier than giving the whole story in context. So then we hear one or two words, and sometimes make a judgement about that. It doesn’t serve anyone really. And of course, some labels are socially acceptable and others are not.
I just heard a more complete version of the story behind the Cleveland Browns football player who just got suspended for a year. He said that he heard an unkind “label” that led to grabbing his opponent’s helmet and hitting him with it. It was a reaction that wasn’t expected by anyone, and he has apologized. But he’s out for a year, and the other guy is fined $50K. So I asked my husband if players are allowed to say things like that to intimidate the other team. It seems that taunting and intimidation are okay, but “labels” are not okay. Hmmm…so they both crossed a line but in different ways?
When it comes to Human Design, labels are seen as pretty powerful. Many of my clients have come to me after a Human Design session with another analyst. They tell me they’re looking for a “better reading”. And I ask them “Why?”
Usually it’s because they feel they’ve been “labelled” – and it doesn’t feel good. They’re not sure about the labels and the keynotes; they don’t see how to move forward with this new information, and they certainly don’t feel empowered.
As I mentioned, I don’t care much for the labels either! So I’ve wrestled with this myself. Full disclosure: Most people are not thrilled to hear their Energy Type – no matter what it is. And in my humble opinion, I think it’s just because it feels and sounds like a label. For most of us, the reaction is completely normal: “Don’t tell me what I am” or “Why can’t I be the other Type?” or “I feel like I’m the other Type, not this one!”
WE ALL HAVE EVERYTHING! SO WHY DO WE NEED THE LABELS?
So let’s try to clear this up: here are two things that are always true about your Human Design chart and you:
- Each of us has EVERYTHING in the chart. We each have all the energy pieces available. All the lines and channels and Centers. Those energies are available to all of us. Just not consistently. The white parts are on your chart and you do HAVE them – they’re just inconsistent energy. Sometimes, you have willpower and sometimes you don’t. It’s natural. And the colored in (defined) parts are what’s consistent energy for you. You can count on that energy all the time. It’s what makes you YOU!
- The labels that we lay out on the chart are merely a Starting Point to talk about who you really are! We start with your Energy Type and Profile, Strategy and Authority to confirm what you probably already know about yourself. That if you make decisions this way – your unique way – consistently, things will likely turn out better for you. It’s not mystical or woo-woo. It’s just quantum physics and common sense. And again, it’s a blueprint for your unique life. You get to try it out to prove it to yourself, practice for a while and make it yours. It’s just a starting point.
So what if we used the term “blueprint” for our entire Human Design chart, instead of the labels that we invariably use as a shorthand to explain what Type or Profile we are? Or at least steer clear of using the labels and tell others what we’re about – what’s unique about us, and what we’re up to now — now that we know we’ve got all these cool parts.
I was talking with a new client recently. His Human Design session was actually a gift from a friend, so he didn’t know much about it at all. But he was open to finding out more, he said. But only so much. At the start of the call, he issued a challenge of sorts. He told me he wouldn’t divulge much about himself – he wanted to hear what I had to say first. Then he’d confirm if I was on the right track or not.
So I agreed, and just asked a few basic questions: yes, he owned his own business (in the auto industry); yes, married; yes, wanted to change a few things. Beyond that, I worked from his chart. About halfway through the call – after he’s been confirming everything I said about his chart – he blurts out: “I get it now! I don’t believe this! You’re blueprinting ME!” Coming from someone who works with car blueprints every day, that seemed like acceptance!
Yes, I said, we do sometimes call Human Design your blueprint. It’s a good description. (It’s in the sub-title of my book, I just remembered!) Maybe we should use it more.
He continued and explained how with cars, it’s essential to have a blueprint to know what to do and how to do it so you don’t upset the integrity of the car as you make changes.
Yup, that pretty much explains how Human Design works. Mind your Strategy and Authority, find your life’s purpose, and go. That way you’re running on all cylinders!
In fact, on the TV Show, American Pickers, there seems to be a trend toward rebuilding cars and trucks with very unique components. I love this idea! Not really paying attention to the make or model, as much as to the parts and design that please the builder. The ones they really love! Instead of hot-rods, they call them rad-rods. (for radical, I think! – they even have a page on Pinterest!)
So taking the rad-rod analogy a step further – what if we considered ourselves to be rad-rods? Really unique bodies with all the parts that we needed in this lifetime to fulfill our dreams and goals with a personality that was exactly suited to our life purpose?
I’m a rad-rod; are you? Isn’t it time you were running on all cylinders?
So take a chance. Rev up your engines and have a fantastic Thanksgiving holiday with friends and family by just being your unique version of you. Cruising down the road to what you want….Enjoy!